The Power of Example

The other night while sitting in a fast food restaurant a family came in.

Because they were sitting close to me I couldn’t help but hear their conversation.

The daughter, about 10, mistakenly thought she didn’t get her drink so she went up to the counter to ask for it.


When she returned with her drink, her mother pointed out the girl’s drink had been sitting on the table all along.

Pointing to the new drink in the girl’s hand, she added, “We were dishonest. That’s not our drink.” She went on to explain to the girl what the error was and why it was wrong.

I was impressed.

Most people wouldn’t have given it a second thought and would have either consumed or thrown away the extra drink.

Not this mom.

When this mom noticed the error she pointed it out and went the extra mile to make sure her daughter understood.

She realized the importance of being faithful in the little things.

It made me think about my own life.

Am I faithful in the little things?

Do I take care of the details?

Do I cheat others without meaning to because I’m not paying attention or think it’s no big deal?

To God it is a big deal.

We’re called to be faithful in the small things as well as the big ones.

Jesus said:

“Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much.” ~ Luke 16:10

I doubt the mom realized what an impact her actions made not just on her family but on those around her. I’m guessing she was solely focused on honoring God with her actions and parenting, but I heard and saw her witness loudly and clearly.

There’s a lesson there.

I need to pay more attention to the seemingly minor details because they truly matter, not just to me but to those around me as well.

As I go through the next week I will be paying careful attention to details to make sure I am faithful in the little things.

I hope you will, too.


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A Clarification

I received a lot of feedback for a post I had last week (read it here).

I even lost a few readers.

Apparently, they thought the statement that I would be blogging other women’s struggles in first person meant that my blog and it’s posts would somehow be inauthentic.

They also felt it was as though I wouldn’t be sharing my own struggles or that I somehow thought I didn’t have problems and so I would have to use others’ problems to have something to blog about.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

We all have problems. It is a part of living in this broken, sin-sick world we live in.

And, really, does it matter if I say, “hey, so-and-so was struggling with this” or if I say, “hey, there’s this problem women have”?

I don’t think it does.

So, which ever way I say it, the important thing is that we learn about Christ and draw closer to Him, examining ourselves and seeking to serve Him better daily.

I’m genuinely sorry if what I said sounded dishonest.

It wasn’t meant that way.

I simply wanted to reassure some close friends who read my blog. Two very close friends in particular are regular readers. If I start writing about things I haven’t mentioned to them they will worry. I was trying to avoid that.

I hope as the days and weeks unfold those who were doubtful will continue to read and will see that all I’m trying to do is be obedient to Him and to share what I’m learning, whether it is from my trials or the trials of others.



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We’re Headed to Nashville!

Today we are headed to Nashville to attend the Southern Festival of Books!


I’m spending the weekend meeting authors, listening to lectures on writing, and networking.

Please pray for us as we travel.

Please also pray for me as there is always the possibility of meeting agents, publishers, etc. Pray that if there is a door to be opened for me this weekend I will see it.

Thank you in advance!

Have a great weekend!



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International Day of Prayer for the Persecuted Church

Every day Christians across the world are killed simply because they follow Christ.

Their homes are burned, their churches destroyed.

Men, women and children are assaulted.

Just because they love Jesus.

In the United States we have freedom of religion and the freedom to worship, pray and serve as we please. What better way is there to express this freedom than to pray for the safety of our brothers and sisters who don’t have that freedom?

Please encourage your church leaders to openly share this important day with their congregation as we join together in one voice to pray for them.

This link will take you to resources you can download to use to share this important information with your congregation members: Open Doors USA


International Day of Prayer for the Persecuted Church

Sunday, November 6, 2016





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I’m Back !?!

Well, Sorta.

I used to blog a lot but then I had to take time off to help Ringo deal with some things and get his life back on track.

Blogging is a lot more time consuming than you might imagine. One post can take as many as 3-5 hours once you pray, research the Scripture, find a suitable photo, etc.

That’s in addition to the time it takes to work behind the scenes to keep the blog software updated, deal with spam, etc.

Between helping Ringo and sorting through some family things I just didn’t have time for everything, so I let the blog go.

My grandkitty, Bill, and me

My grandkitty, Bill, and me

I also took a year’s sabbatical from any kind of ministry. I didn’t teach, help with youth group or participate in any other formally structured church stuff.

I spent the time focused solely on resting, praying and studying.

Things have calmed down a lot now.

I’m excited to say Ringo is making progress and more himself every day.

I’m also excited to announce that during my rest I began writing another book! I expect it to go to print next spring or summer.

I’ve even begun working on the outline for a third book!

I’d appreciate it if you would help me pray about when/how to publish them as I have several options. I want to make sure I choose the right one.

In the mean time, I’m not sure how frequently I’ll post. I’m more interested in posting things I feel are helpful rather than meeting a quota.

I will also be using the blog to post things I come across as I work with women, sharing lessons they are learning and working through. In an effort to protect their identity and situation I will be posting it in first person.

So please don’t get worried if I post about some serious or off-the-wall stuff. Some of the women I work with will read about things they are not really comfortable talking about.

I say all of this to say, yes, I’m back – sorta.

I appreciate your patience and understanding during time gaps between posts.



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See You At the Pole

This morning is See You At the Pole.

Please take a moment this morning to pray for the thousands of students across the country who are gathering at their high school flag pole to pray for their schools, friends, families, communities and churches.

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Global Week of Student Prayer


This Wednesday thousands of students around the country will gather at the flag pole of their high school at 7 a.m. to pray for their schools, family, friends, communities and churches. Commonly called See You At the Pole, it is an opportunity for the students to gather together as they seek the Lord.

Please spend extra time this week praying for our students and especially for the ones who will be brave enough to publicly show their faith by attending this event.

If you can, please stop where you are on Wednesday morning at 7 a.m. and prayerfully lift up these students, their families and your community.

Psalm 24:3-6:

Who may ascend the mountain of the Lord?
Who may stand in his holy place?

4The one who has clean hands and a pure heart,
who does not trust in an idol
or swear by a false god.

5They will receive blessing from the Lord
and vindication from God their Savior.

6Such is the generation of those who seek him,
who seek your face, God of Jacob.

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I Choose to Love Them

I look at this family member I dislike so much.

This person who has repeatedly and intentionally hurt and used me.


And I think how could anyone expect me to love someone so detestable?

But then a small still voice whispers,

“the same way I could love you,
not because you deserve it
but because love conquers all
and covers a multitude of sins.”

…and in that moment I’m brought back to the reality of my salvation.

A reality that forces me to remember it’s not about whether they are good enough to be loved.

It’s about whether or not I am willing to love just because I have the chance.

So I choose to.

Not because I’m anything special but because by loving them I share with them a small portion of what my Savior gave me.

And in that moment we both glimpse Heaven.

Who knows but that loving them just one more time or showing His love again might be the time they finally get it?

The time they finally see the love of Christ shining through me.

And then I remember –  they’re broken, too.

They’re in need of a Savior to rescue them.

To heal them.

To save them from themselves.

Their actions are just symptoms.

Symptoms of a need for the same Savior I so desperately need to heal me, to restore me, to deliver me from myself.

And then, then it isn’t so hard to love them.

To feel compassion.

To hurt for them.

To pray for them.

To ask my Savior to reach out and be their Savior.girl-praying-hands-eyelashes-41942-medium

In that moment when I am kneeling before the throne, asking the King of King and Lord of Lords to have compassion on them and show them His love for them, I get a taste of His love for me.

And a picture of His love for them.

In that moment it isn’t hard to love them at all.

So I choose to love them.

To once more reach out to them with His love, confident that in so doing, I am doing what is best for both of us.

What is the absolute best.

For both of us.

I choose love.



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Jeremiah 29:11 Is Only Part of the Answer

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Jeremiah 29:11 is my son Ringo’s life verse.

He uses it to remind himself God has a plan for him.

This was particularly helpful to him as he walked through his high school years not knowing what he wanted to do with his life or what path he should take.

Ringo quoted it repeatedly. It soothed him when things got rough.

He forgot an important step, tho. He forgot to read it in the context of the scripture around it. He clung to it without understanding the entire passage.

He assumed as he graduated and moved out in to the world that things would be okay.

They weren’t.

When things got tough, he stumbled. And, because he didn’t understand the entire passage, he got upset with God because things weren’t going the way he thought they should.

Then, he stumbled again.

He just didn’t understand why the choices he was making weren’t working out the way he thought they should. He knew God had a plan and he thought he was following it.

And, he was. Or at least what he thought was God’s plan.

Unfortunately, he hadn’t stopped and really given God the time, attention and prayer necessary to get the actual plan.

He also still hadn’t read the rest of the passage.

12″Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. 13You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.”

It’s not about sitting around waiting for God to bless us with a career, a material need, or a close relationship with Him.

He won’t just show up one day and say “here’s the plan,”.

We have a part in it.

It is our job to call on Him, to pray to Him, to seek Him with our whole heart. That’s when we will find Him and his whole plan. When we seek Him with our whole heart.

Only then can we fully understand what it is God has planned for our lives.

Ringo learned the hard way that it is more than just knowing God has a plan for us.

He is still working to recover from his stumbles. But, he’s getting there.

And the more he learns to seek God and to turn to Him for guidance, the more he learns and understands God’s plan for his life.

Seeking God with your whole heart. That’s how the plan comes together.


Seek – verb (

  1. to go in search or quest of. try to find or discover by searching or questioning.

  1. to try to obtain


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Shine Your Light

Who cares how dark the world is?

It has been dark before.

It will get darker still.

We don’t walk in fear of the darkness.

We walk according to the Light.

The darker it is, the brighter a light can shine.

Focus on The Light and shine yours brightly.    ~Bro. G. Carpenter

For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light ~Ephesians 5;8

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